Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties Episode 52: He Is Not Worth Erasing Yourself Everyday For a Year
Jul 12, 2019
This discussion dives into the complexities of reconnecting with exes and the emotional turmoil of fuck buddy situations. The hosts explore the allure of problematic crushes and the ways we can lose ourselves in relationships. They provide heartfelt advice for navigating old flames and highlight the importance of boundaries after a friends-with-benefits betrayal. Self-care in the wake of a partner's depression is also emphasized, reminding listeners to prioritize their mental health as they move forward.
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Attraction Reveals Old Patterns
- Crushes often persist even after years of self-work and a stable relationship.
- Sierra and Sam note attraction can expose old patterns, not current compatibility.
Drawn To Train‑Wreck Types
- Sam shares being attractively drawn to 'train wreck' personalities despite knowing they're harmful.
- Sierra admits craving dominant partners who make her question herself even when in a stable relationship.
Triggers Shrink You, Not Always The Trigger
- Persistent triggers remain even as you get stronger; healing doesn't erase them.
- Attraction can be a replay of giving power away to people unsafe with your care.