The Sabrina Zohar Show
79: Beyond "Yes": Breaking the Cycle of People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response with Matthias Barker
Jun 7, 2024
Matthias Barker, an expert in trauma responses, discusses the detrimental effects of people-pleasing behavior stemming from fear rather than empathy. He emphasizes self-awareness, setting boundaries, and fostering authentic relationships. Sabrina and Barker share personal experiences, highlighting the importance of addressing big emotions and encouraging partners to express needs authentically.
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Quick takeaways
- People-pleasing stems from fear and manipulation, not genuine empathy.
- Distinguishing between hurtful and harmful actions is essential for setting boundaries.
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Recognizing the Impact of People-Pleasing Behavior in Relationships
People pleasing behavior, such as suppressing needs to prioritize others, can lead to detrimental effects in relationships - romantically, socially, and professionally. By delving into the psychology of accommodating others at the expense of personal boundaries, it becomes apparent that such behaviors stem from fear and the desire for approval and security. Setting a healthy balance between one's own needs and accommodating others can pave the way for more authentic and satisfying relationships.
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