How to Feel Calm & Sexy In Your Love Life! (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 7)
Apr 29, 2024
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Discover the concept of object-of-desire based arousal and how it affects feeling sexy and desired in relationships. Get a sneak peek of chapter 7 of the book that discusses sex, dating, and romantic relationships. Find guidance on overcoming socialization and finding love beliefs to feel confident and empowered in your love life.
Object-of-desire based arousal affects how we feel sexy, need to generate desire independently.
Identifying and overcoming traps in romantic socialization leads to personal growth and fulfillment in relationships.
Deep dives
Understanding Object of Desire-Based Arousal
The episode delves into the concept of object of desire-based arousal, which explains how our socialization influences our ability to feel turned on or sexy based on others' desires towards us. Psychologists define this as feeling aroused only when desired by another. The discussion emphasizes the importance of creating desire and feeling sexy regardless of external validation.
Exploring Traps in Romantic Socialization
The podcast outlines four common traps in romantic socialization: insecurity, scarcity and settling, fixation and rumination, and magical thinking. These traps offer insight into challenges faced in dating and relationships. Additionally, the episode provides exercises to develop new beliefs about love and addresses differing thought patterns in relationships to encourage personal growth and fulfillment.
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Exploring Socialization and Desire in Relationships and Sex
Have you ever heard of object-of-desire based arousal? It's a product of socialization that explains why we find it SO hard to feel turned on or sexy if someone isn't actively desiring us. In this episode, I explain this concept and give you a sneak peek of the rest of chapter 7 of my book- which is all about sex, dating, and romantic relationships. If you are struggling in dating or you're unhappy in a romantic relationship... you need to hear what I share in this episode. Let's go!