EP 511: How to Feel Connected After Feeling Disconnected with Elle

In this heartfelt coaching session, Christine supports Elle, who has done years of personal growth work but still struggles with feeling disconnected—especially in intimate relationships. Despite building a chosen family and strong friendships, Elle worries she may never find a romantic partner she feels both safe and attracted to. Past experiences of abuse and neglect have created protective strategies that now interfere with intimacy and connection.

Christine helps Elle see that she is further along than she realizes, guiding her to release self-judgment and reframe her experiences. They explore how protective parts, body-based healing, and inviting the inner child into present-day moments can restore connection.

If you’ve ever felt broken, wondered if something was “wrong” with you, or struggled to combine love, safety, and attraction in relationships, this conversation will offer relief, perspective, and hope.

Consider / Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel disconnected from yourself, others, or even spiritually?
• Did you grow up in an environment where you didn’t feel safe or seen?
• Do you tend to be drawn to emotionally unavailable partners while overlooking those who are healthy and present?
• Are you approaching personal growth from the mindset of “fixing what’s wrong” instead of cultivating compassion and curiosity?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Nothing heals in judgment—shifting from “what’s wrong with me” to self-compassion is essential.
• Attraction to unavailable partners is often a protective strategy that keeps deeper intimacy at bay.
• Our past selves and inner child need to be invited into the safety of the present moment.
• Healing requires integrating body-based practices, not just intellectual understanding.
• You are often further along in your healing than you realize.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Practice inviting your inner child into current moments of connection and safety.
• Approach your healing with curiosity rather than judgment.
• Explore somatic or body-based trauma work to move stuck emotions and energy.
• Reframe protective strategies as once-necessary survival tools—and begin to update them with new choices.
• Remind yourself regularly: There is nothing wrong with you.

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