Jocko Podcast Jocko Underground: How To End Drama When You're Caught In The Middle.
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Jan 12, 2026 Discover strategies to handle family drama, including how to stop in-laws from creating tensions. Learn about the 'gray rocking' technique to defuse drama and rein in attention-seeking behavior. Jocko encourages role-playing to practice boundary-setting responses. The duo advises on creating necessary distance from manipulative relatives and emphasizes consistency in maintaining boundaries. Plus, explore ways to get out of life’s slumps while dealing with feelings of inadequacy when comparing yourself to others.
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Use Gray Rocking To Stop Oversharing
- Do use 'gray rocking' to avoid engaging when parents share inappropriate personal details.
- Role play short, neutral responses and change the subject to diminish their attempts for attention.
Let Your Partner Lead Boundary Setting
- Support your partner by coaching her to deliver firm, calm lines rather than confronting parents yourself.
- Avoid inserting yourself early; let her set boundaries first to prevent backlash.
Example: A Simple Successful Boundary Line
- Jocko describes his wife's low-drama style and a firm escalation phrase she uses when pushed.
- She says explicitly, 'This has nothing to do with me, and I don't want to be involved in it.'