Modern Wisdom #370 - James Bloodworth - Understanding The Modern Dating Economy
Sep 11, 2021
James Bloodworth, a journalist and author, explores the chaotic modern dating economy. He delves into how platforms like Tinder and OnlyFans are reshaping romance and self-worth. The conversation addresses rising celibacy rates among young men, societal pressures around harassment, and the complexities of attraction influenced by technology. Bloodworth critiques traditional dating narratives while unraveling the conflicting ideologies within contemporary feminism. He emphasizes the need for genuine connections beyond the digital world amidst the commodification of intimacy.
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Dating Economy
- The term "dating economy" reflects the transactional nature of modern dating, influenced by data-driven apps and quantifiable metrics like "sexual market value".
- This metaphor helps older generations understand modern dating dynamics, but it can also promote a deterministic view of romance.
Dating App Impact
- The shift from monogamy to a mix of hookup culture and traditional dating has impacted sexual frequency, especially for men.
- Dating apps emphasize presentation over substance, making it difficult for those less photogenic or skilled in conveying status/attributes online.
Conflicting Dating Norms
- A significant percentage of young people consider approaching someone as harassment, while most women prefer men to initiate contact.
- This dissonance creates challenges in navigating modern dating, highlighting conflicting expectations around approach and consent.
