Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell 267: Bad Marriage & Sex Advice, with Monica Tanner
Oct 3, 2025
Monica Tanner, a relationship coach and author of Bad Marriage Advice, returns to challenge outdated myths about marriage and intimacy. She discusses how love alone doesn't sustain a marriage; effort and growth are essential. Monica emphasizes that partners should develop individually rather than seeking completion in each other. They also explore the dangers of duty-based sexual expectations, advocating for mutual desire instead. Tune in for her intriguing insights on collaboration over compromise and a fresh perspective on relational health.
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Wedding Advice Can Mislead
- Well-meaning wedding advice often sounds good but can be unhelpful or harmful when applied without context.
- Monica wrote Bad Marriage Advice to warn couples about common myths and offer better approaches.
Early Marriage Research
- Monica studied marriages young after her parents divorced and kept journals of what she observed in successful couples.
- She pursued sociology and child development to intentionally build a long-term fun marriage.
First Big Fight Misunderstanding
- Monica recalled a first big fight where she assumed abandonment and planned divorce while her husband had quietly done laundry and studying.
- That moment showed how different processing styles created dramatic misunderstandings early in their marriage.
