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The Psychology of your 20s

129. The psychology of oversharing

Sep 26, 2023
Ever found yourself sharing way too much at a social gathering? Dive into the psychology behind oversharing, exploring its emotional consequences and how it relates to social anxiety. Understand the fine line between authentic connections and trauma dumping. Discover why some people overshare as a way to connect quickly, and learn how neurodivergence like ADHD plays a role. Plus, get practical tips to curb the oversharing habit and avoid that dreaded 'vulnerability hangover'!
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Quick takeaways

  • Chronic oversharing can happen due to various factors, including the need for emotional regulation and externalizing problems, anxiety and neurodivergence (such as social anxiety and ADHD), and the desire for fast and intense connections.
  • It is important to distinguish between oversharing and authenticity, as oversharing can sometimes cross boundaries and make others uncomfortable. Striking a balance between vulnerability and oversharing is key to maintaining healthy relationships.

Deep dives

Reasons for Chronic Oversharing

Chronic oversharing can happen due to various factors. One reason is the need to externalize problems or for emotional regulation, where individuals feel the urge to verbally express their thoughts and feelings to manage discomfort. Anxiety and neurodivergence, such as social anxiety and ADHD, can also contribute to oversharing, as impulsive and anxious behaviors can lead to lowered impulse control. Additionally, some individuals may have an intensity addiction, desiring fast and intense connections that oversharing can facilitate. Lastly, although not applicable to all cases, seeking attention and sympathy can be another reason for chronic oversharing.

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