Why Smart People Keep Dating the Wrong Person (And How to Break the Cycle) with Marni Kinrys • 404

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to get clear on what you actually want in a partner (beyond surface-level preferences) and why this clarity is the key to attracting the right person
• The difference between people who date successfully versus those who just date often—and the mindset shifts that make all the difference
• Why most of us are unconsciously repelling the very people we want to attract, and the simple changes that can transform how others see you

Have you ever found yourself dating the same type of person over and over again, wondering why you keep attracting the wrong people? Or maybe you're clear on what you don't want, but when someone asks what you're actually looking for, you draw a blank?

I used to think that getting specific about what I wanted in a partner would somehow shrink my dating pool. Like I was being too picky or limiting my options. But what I didn't realize was how much time and emotional energy I was wasting on people who were never going to be a good fit. I was operating from this scarcity mindset, thinking I had to keep my options wide open, when really I was just keeping myself wide open to disappointment.

Here's what's wild—recent studies show that people who have a clear vision of what they want in a relationship are 40% more likely to find lasting love within two years. Meanwhile, those who cast a wide net and hope for the best often find themselves stuck in the same frustrating patterns for years.

Today our guest is Marni Kinrys, creator of the Wing Girl Method and a dating expert who's been helping people find love for over 21 years. She's worked with hundreds of thousands of clients and has a unique perspective on what actually works in modern dating versus what we think should work.

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