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Episode 475: Make her work for it (don't just hand it over)

Oct 25, 2024
Explore the dynamics of investment in relationships, where men's ease of offering commitment can leave women feeling undervalued. Discover how emotional investment enhances relationship value. Using a fishing metaphor, the conversation highlights the necessity of mutual effort in attraction. Commitment becomes a prized resource when both partners need to work for it, emphasizing that relationships shouldn't be handed over easily.
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Quick takeaways

  • Women are more likely to value relationships when they have invested effort, making them less prone to end them prematurely.
  • Implementing 'catch and release' in dating encourages mutual investment, fostering stronger relationships based on earned commitment and shared effort.

Deep dives

Investment in Relationships

Women tend to value relationships more when they have invested time and effort into them. When men offer relationships and commitments too freely, they diminish the perceived value from the perspective of women, making it easier for women to end those connections. In essence, if a woman does not have to work hard to secure a relationship, she is less likely to see it as worth preserving during challenging times. Therefore, a woman who is emotionally and physically engaged in the relationship, after having put in the necessary effort, is more likely to stay committed and resistant to leaving when problems arise.

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