PsycHacks Episode 475: Make her work for it (don't just hand it over)
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Oct 25, 2024 Explore the dynamics of investment in relationships, where men's ease of offering commitment can leave women feeling undervalued. Discover how emotional investment enhances relationship value. Using a fishing metaphor, the conversation highlights the necessity of mutual effort in attraction. Commitment becomes a prized resource when both partners need to work for it, emphasizing that relationships shouldn't be handed over easily.
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Women Don't Work for Relationships
- Women often end relationships more because they don't have to work for them.
- If effort to secure a relationship is low, its perceived value and commitment drop.
Men Give Commitment Too Easily
- Women make men work hard for sex and demonstrate authentic interest first.
- Men tend to give relationships and commitment too easily to secure sex.
Make Her Work for Commitment
- Men should make women work for the relationship commitment to increase its value.
- The higher the perceived cost of commitment, the more a woman values it.