The New Age Sage Podcast #114 - Stop Testing Love: How You're DESTROYING Your Relationship Without Realizing It
Jul 9, 2025
The discussion delves into how testing love often reflects deeper trauma responses. It explores the link between childhood abandonment and adult relationship behaviors, revealing common testing signs like jealousy and miscommunication. Fear of loss drives these impulses, while self-sabotage can create cycles of abandonment. The host introduces the concept of Jungian shadow work as a way to understand and heal these patterns. Techniques for self-regulation and the importance of personal ownership in relationships are emphasized, promoting a shift from fear to love.
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Testing Reveals Belief Love Is Broken
- Testing love means you believe love is broken and must be proven.
- That impulse comes from a part of you that feels unworthy and fears abandonment.
Personal Story Of A Hijacked Heart
- Lucas describes loving deeply while a wounded part still fears surrender after childhood loss.
- That wounded complex can hijack your consciousness when triggered.
Testing Is A Failed Defense Against Loss
- We test love to try to prevent repeat abandonment by catching loss early.
- This keeps you vigilant and prevents you from receiving love fully.