Increments #96 (Bonus) - On the Limits of Introspection
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Dec 22, 2025 Celebrate the holidays with a deep dive into parenting, where advice for new fathers shines. Explore Robert Kegan's stages of identity development and the allure of enlightenment. The discussion touches on the struggles of introspection, revealing how difficult true self-knowledge can be. The risks of over-analysis in therapy are highlighted, alongside a fascinating look at countertransference. Finally, there's a nod to the enlightening show Couples Therapy as a model for effective therapeutic guidance.
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Wait For The 18‑Month Shift
- Hang on through the first 18 months of fatherhood because it isn't representative of the long-term relationship.
- Around 18 months you start forming inside jokes and independent bonding with your child.
Coming Out As A Non‑Skier
- Vaden avoided admitting he disliked skiing until his late twenties despite living where everyone skis.
- He could do it but preferred being on his computer and only snowboarded reluctantly.
Kegan's Stages Of Self
- Robert Kegan's stages map identity from impulse to social construction to self-authored and a rare fifth 'enlightened' state.
- The fifth stage resembles shedding ego and being present, but may be impractical as a constant mode.