Why Do I Keep Attracting Unavailable Men?

Aug 7, 2025

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In this episode, Matt speaks with queer relationship coach Lonay Halloum about why we attract unavailable men. This episode will provide you with a deeper understanding of your relationship patterns and why you might be attracting unavailable men. This episode was inspired by a deep desire to help you heal the subconscious programs that lead to self-abandonment so you can end this exhausting cycle and finally attract available men.

The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:

Matt and Lonay both share their stories about attracting unavailable men
Why do we attract unavailable men?
How do attachment styles play a role?
What is the subconscious mind, and how does it contribute to this?
How can we work with the subconscious mind to heal?
How does low self-worth play a role in this?
How can we break this cycle and start to attract available men?

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Today's Guest: Lonay Halloum

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Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel

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