Stop Being So Realistic: Why You’re Playing Yourself By Playing It Safe [Solo]

Aug 12, 2025

Exploring the trap of realism, the discussion dives into how it can shrink our goals and reinforce negativity. A TikTok experiment reignites the motivation to think bigger. With insights on redefining what’s 'realistic' and embracing challenges, listeners are encouraged to pursue their bold dreams. Learn to turn envy into inspiration and navigate the emotional costs of being a pioneer. Plus, practical journaling homework prompts reflection on forgotten ambitions. It's a call to ditch self-sabotage and embrace grand possibilities!

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ADVICE

Show Up Consistently

Post consistently and speak directly to your audience to increase opportunities.
Les Alfred committed to daily 60-second videos to build comfort and visibility on TikTok.

INSIGHT

Words Shape Your Reality

Language shapes experience and can trap you in negativity if unexamined.
Les Alfred returned to manifestation practices to shift her thinking and emotional state.

ADVICE

Quit Automatic Venting

Limit habitual venting that reinforces being 'realistic' about negative outcomes.
Replace repetitive complaint loops with language that acknowledges positives as equally real.

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#304: Is being too “realistic” keeping you stuck?

This week, I’m getting into something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately: how being “realistic” can actually be a form of shrinking our goals to fit our fears.

In this solo episode, I’m unpacking why being realistic isn’t always the wise or grounded choice it’s made out to be, and how it might actually be self-sabotage disguised as protection.

I also share some mindset shifts that have helped me stop shrinking my goals to fit what feels “safe” and start thinking bigger again—without spiraling into overwhelm. If you’ve ever talked yourself out of something because it felt too bold or too unlikely, this one’s for you.

In this episode, I talk about:

Why “being realistic” can be a trap
How I’ve noticed it showing up in my own life
What to do when your big goals start to feel too far away
The difference between grounded strategy and self-sabotage
Encouragement to stop playing small and dream a little bigger

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