Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson Discovering Your Wants and Needs
Struggling with Desires
- People struggle to identify desires when out of touch with themselves.
- Others suppress needs due to past shame or cultural norms.
Three-Step Process for Needs
- Accept that everyone has needs and preferences.
- Identify and meet those needs systematically.
Categories of Needs
- Needs aren't just basic survival; they're psychological too.
- Safety, satisfaction, and connection are core biological needs.
Everyone has needs, but many people find it difficult to identify what authentically matters to them. Even when we can identify them, shame or fear often stops us from expressing those needs to others or taking the practical steps that would help us achieve them.
Meeting our needs is a major source of well-being, and people who can identify their needs are more likely to get them met. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson focus on how to look inside, and figure out what you really need. They discuss different frameworks for categorizing our needs, what to do when we are confused by our desires, and how to get in touch with what you really want.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:05: Common features among people who struggle to name their desires
7:05: Three basic steps to relate to wants and needs
8:00: Different frameworks for categorizing wants and needs
21:00: What helped Rick get in touch with his own wants and needs?
28:00: An experiential exercise
35:10: Why addressing your needs and wants is not just naval gazing
38:40: Forrest’s suggestions based on his own experience
45:25: What to do when what we want is probably not best for us
51:40: Creating a personal manifesto
54:30: Recap
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