Therapy in a Nutshell

How to Set Boundaries with Emotionally Immature People - The CLEAR Method w/ Jess Miller

Jun 17, 2025
In this engaging conversation, Jess Miller, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the creator of Mind Your Boundaries, discusses setting limits with emotionally immature people. She introduces her CLEAR method, a practical approach to communicating boundaries effectively. Jess shares personal experiences, including her own family estrangement, highlighting how early experiences shape emotional behaviors. The duo also explores how empathy and understanding can lead to healthier relationships, offering actionable tips for managing difficult family dynamics.
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INSIGHT

Traits of Emotionally Immature People

  • Emotionally immature people take reasonable boundaries as personal attacks and react defensively.
  • They exhibit hypersensitivity, blame-shifting, and inability to take accountability.
INSIGHT

Emotional Capacity Like Toddlers

  • Emotionally immature adults often have emotional capacities similar to toddlers.
  • They lack insight and the ability to understand others' feelings or be empathic.
ANECDOTE

Toxic Positivity in Family

  • Emma shares her experience with a family member using toxic positivity, lacking empathy skills.
  • She realized the person merely lacked emotional awareness rather than being mean-spirited.
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