
The Meaning of Men S1, Ep1: The Meaning of Friendships | Why men struggle to form real connections
Jan 5, 2025
Join Geoffrey Greif, a distinguished professor and author of Buddy System, as he dives into the nuances of male friendships and their impact on mental health. He introduces the four types of friends—must, trust, rust, and just—and discusses the challenges men face in maintaining strong connections. Learn why trust is crucial, how partners can support men's social lives, and practical tips for reconnecting with old friends or forging new bonds. If you’re looking to deepen your friendships and enhance your well-being, this conversation is a must-listen!
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Men Can Hold Many Types Of Friendship
- Men can form both fleeting meaningful encounters and lifelong sustaining friendships.
- Geoffrey Greif emphasizes men have the capacity for a full range of friendships across the lifespan.
Friendship Requires Active Balancing
- Balancing friendships with partner, children, and self requires negotiation and time management.
- Social roles and cultural expectations shape how men allocate time to relationships.
Sort Friends By Four Practical Categories
- Classify friends into must, trust, rust, and just to clarify expectations for each relationship.
- Use these categories to stop pressuring every friend to be equally close.




