Ask Uncut - Tit For Tat, Double Ups and Blowies

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Britt is living in regret of mocking one of Keeshia’s recommendations (once again) after having a run in with a huge, very rusty nail! 

Vibes for the week:
Keeshia - Thursday Murder Club on Netflix
Laura - Unknown Number The High School Catfish on Netflix
Britt - Mermade M Ionic Hair Dryer 

Then we jump into your questions!

DO I ORGANISE FATHER DAY GIFT FOR HUSBAND IF HE DIDN’T DO ANYTHING FOR MOTHERS DAY?
Should I get my husband a Father’s Day present or organise a day for him if he didn’t bother getting me a Mother’s Day present or planning anything? I had to really show how upset I was for him to eventually (weeks later) buy me new PJs that I had already asked for. He barely made an effort to do anything; we went for a walk to get a coffee at the cafe, no planned brunch or anything. I was furious. I ended up doing the groceries with my toddler by myself and she had the biggest meltdown in Coles. I was so embarrassed and upset. My daughter is 2.5 (too young to know what Mother’s Day is), and I’ve been pregnant with our 2nd. He didn’t even tell our daughter to wish me a happy Mother’s Day!! I’ve told him that the bare minimum I expect is that our children know that it’s Mother’s Day, that I get a present and that something is planned. I don’t want to stoop to his level and not make an effort as I hope that leading by example will make him make an effort. But I’m fucking angry.

 

SELFISH FRIEND STRUGGLES TO BE HAPPY FOR OTHERS, BUT HAS HAD A TOUGH TIME
My best friend is also my colleague. She’s had a really rough 18 months — a divorce just 6 months into her marriage and then a miscarriage. Since then, she struggles to be happy for others. She refuses to contribute to colleagues’ wedding or baby gifts and when another colleague tried to organise a present for our pregnant boss, she told her, ‘I’m not paying you money, you can all f* off.’ She also makes comments like, ‘I wish I got treated like that,’ “I’m Not contributing to that after what I’ve been through!” when others are celebrated. The thing is, when she went through her divorce, miscarriage and birthday we all supported her with meals, presents, and care packages. But she’s never once gotten me anything — not for my birthdays or even when my Nan passed away. I’m finding her selfishness and expectations really hard to handle. How do I deal with this as her best friend without being cruel about what she’s been through?”

 

FRIEND WANTS A SECOND BABY SHOWER JUST TO GET GIFTS- BUT I GAVE FOR THE FIRST BABY!
One of my girlfriends within our friendship group announced she is pregnant with another child. The age gap between her youngest will be 6 years and was the first of our group to be married and having babies young. Whereas the rest of us are now having our first baby. She has advised she’d like someone to throw her a baby shower given the years gone and no longer having any baby items. We all contributed to the first baby shower. A few of us have expressed that it’s the first child you have a baby shower and the rest you can celebrate as a baby sprinkle without expectations of any gifts or restock of items they originally had been given from the first child. She has expressed it is a shower she wants and not just a celebration. Is it bad for me to not want to attend knowing it’s purely based on wanting gifts and having a strong expectation from guests?

 

ARE WE GIVING BLOWJOBS?
Ok girls, blow jobs…. Are we giving them? My partner and I have been in a relationship for 8 years now. A common issue that often arises is around aligning with what we want sexually. I have quite a low libido and could quite happily go months without sex. He has quite a high libido and would love to have sex every couple of days. We have compromised on once every 1-2 weeks. That is working for us, apart from when I am on my period. My partner expects that I should give him blow jobs in the week of my period. It is something he really enjoys (says every man ever). However, I do not find it enjoyable. Instead, I find it quite uncomfortable, and it feels like a chore to me. I have told him that I do not like doing it, and this is a constant issue that comes up. Every time he asks for a blow job, I am conflicted between not wanting to cause conflict and not wanting to do it because I do not enjoy it.
We have had a big discussion about this, and we are going to try to incorporate other things into our sex life to meet his sexual desires without blow jobs. My question is, is this a common issue that couples face? I feel like no one really talks about it, but surely it is! Are people giving their partners blow jobs? And if so, do they enjoy it, or do they find it a chore but do it because their partner enjoys it? (Can we poll this) x

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