Modern Wisdom #674 - Adam Lane Smith - 17 Ugly Psychology Truths No One Wants To Admit
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Aug 31, 2023 
In this engaging discussion, Adam Lane Smith, a psychotherapist and author with extensive experience in relationships, shares revealing insights about psychology and intimacy. He explains why first dates don’t guarantee love and highlights the stark reality of modern dating dynamics. Delving into the effects of daycare on child development, Adam emphasizes the importance of familial bonds. He also addresses gender communication gaps and the sacrifices of parenting, offering listeners a fresh perspective on the complexities of human connections.
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First Date Sex
- Women mistakenly believe sex on a first date creates a bond with men.
- This only works on insecure men seeking approval, not secure men.
Two Dating Pools
- There are two distinct dating pools: secure individuals seeking authentic connection and insecure individuals seeking stimulation.
- These pools rarely interact, leading to misunderstandings and mismatched expectations.
Value Perception
- Men often perceive easy sexual access as a sign of low value, assuming the woman would do the same with anyone.
- This perception can hinder genuine connection and long-term relationship potential.
