Laura Wasser, a high-profile divorce attorney known for representing celebrities and founder of an online divorce service, shares her insights on marriage and divorce. She discusses how discussing prenups can strengthen relationships and emphasizes the importance of financial conversations. Exploring the trend of 'gentle separations' among celebrities, she highlights the impact of social media on divorce. Additionally, Laura answers listener questions about dating after divorce, managing relationships with children, and distinguishing love from lust.
Engaging in open conversations about finances prior to marriage is as vital as discussing intimacy, fostering trust and transparency in relationships.
The prenup discussion not only clarifies legal aspects but also significantly strengthens partnerships, increasing the likelihood of lasting commitment.
Social media has reshaped relationship dynamics, complicating divorces and creating new challenges for couples in terms of communication and infidelity.
Deep dives
The Importance of Timing in Marriage
Many experts suggest that individuals should wait until after the age of 30 to marry, as they may not fully understand themselves prior to this age. This assertion emphasizes the significance of self-awareness and emotional maturity in understanding one's needs and desires before entering a lifelong commitment. It's common for people to enter marriage without sufficient understanding of not only themselves but also the legal implications tied to marital contracts such as community property laws. Premarital counseling is recommended to address these uncertainties and help couples navigate the complexities of marital expectations.
Prenup Conversations as Relationship Strengtheners
Engaging in prenup discussions is shown to strengthen relationships, with research indicating that couples who have these conversations are more likely to remain committed. Financial discussions can often be even more taboo than intimate ones, as many individuals shy away from openly addressing their financial situations with partners. Understanding the financial realities, such as potential spousal support obligations, can foster transparency and trust in the relationship. Addressing these topics head-on can mitigate future conflicts, enabling couples to establish a solid foundation for their marriage.
The Role of Communication in Marital Satisfaction
Communication issues frequently manifest as significant points of contention in marriages, contributing to dissatisfaction and ultimately, divorce. Many couples experience a disconnect in their relationship, with underlying issues like lack of sexual intimacy becoming pronounced. Addressing such concerns early on is crucial; however, couples often avoid prioritizing these conversations, which can lead to an emotional distance. Engaging in open dialogue about sex, finances, and emotional needs can facilitate a more cohesive understanding, preventing resentment and fostering a healthier relationship.
The Impact of Social Media on Divorce
Social media has dramatically transformed the landscape of relationships and divorces, providing both platforms for connection and means for conflict. Many divorce cases now entail evidence gathered from social media interactions, showcasing how online relationships can complicate real-life ones. Issues of infidelity, emotional affairs, and virtual connections often arise from individuals seeking attention and validation outside their marriage. The pervasive nature of social media demands couples be mindful of not only their interactions but also their emotional needs within the marriage to prevent these disconnects.
Navigating Dating After Divorce
Dating as a divorcee presents a unique set of challenges, particularly in how and when to disclose new relationships to children. It's important for parents to approach conversations about new partners thoughtfully and with care, recognizing their children's emotions and potential reactions. The emotional maturity of children can influence how dating disclosures are handled, with teenagers often feeling torn between loyalty to both parents. As individuals navigate their new relationship status, they must also confront their own emotional goals and boundaries, ensuring they are open and honest not just with their children but also with themselves.
You may think of her as divorce attorney to the stars, and Laura Wasser is certainly that. But Laura is also a sharp thinker on marriage and communication, and is here to tell us what every couple needs to know before saying "I do." She says that couples who have the prenup conversation are actually more likely to stay together than those who don't, and that money is an even bigger conversational taboo than sex. She also tells us what it's like repping actor clients vs. musician clients, why we're seeing a celebrity-led trend of "gentle separations," and how social media has changed the game for divorce cases.
Plus, I take your divorce questions! When is it time to say "I don't," and get the hell out? Or how about if you're single, and have a tendency to hook up with older, separated men -- are they just your type? Or...are there some deeper conversations you need to be having, with them, and with yourself? Let's talk dating as a divorcee: when is it OK to tell the kids you've met someone new? And finally, after being married for so long, how do you tell the difference between love and lust, when you're back on the scene? All this and more, on today's divorce show.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why open conversations about finances are just as crucial as discussing intimacy in relationships
The power of the “prenup conversation” for a stronger relationship
Why understanding each other’s relationship expectations can prevent major conflicts down the line
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