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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Meltdowns That Keep Happening, Even When We're Doing Everything Right

Sep 12, 2023
The podcast discusses strategies for addressing extended meltdowns in children, the challenges of power struggles with a three-year-old, understanding and connecting with a perceptive child's meltdowns, balancing independence and caregiving, and the importance of validating children's emotions.
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Quick takeaways

  • Understanding the child's perspective and intentions is essential in addressing meltdowns effectively.
  • True calm should come from within oneself, allowing for the acceptance and safe expression of a child's emotions.

Deep dives

Understanding the Perceptive Child's Need for Care and Connection

This episode delves into the challenges faced by a parent who consistently responds to their child's upset feelings, yet experiences extended and intense meltdowns. The perceptive nature of the child, who is intellectually capable and verbally expressive, contributes to the complexity of the situation. The host emphasizes the importance of understanding the child's perspective and intentions, rather than focusing solely on the parent's intentions. The parent is encouraged to consider that their child's request for assistance, like putting on their pull-ups, may stem from a need for caregiving and connection, rather than control or power struggles. The importance of being honest, direct, and in the present moment when communicating with the child is highlighted. Validating the child's feelings by reflecting what is known for certain is also emphasized, helping the child feel seen and understood.

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