Raising Good Humans Ep 93: A Mother’s Journey Into Attachment and How We Come To Be Who We Are
Apr 30, 2021
Bethany Saltman, an insightful author, dives into the science of attachment and its crucial role in parenting and child development. She unravels common myths surrounding attachment, emphasizing emotional attunement between parents and children. The conversation touches on the lasting effects of childhood attachment styles and how they shape adult relationships. Saltman also addresses the emotional challenges of motherhood, discussing the balance between seeking advice and self-reflection, and highlights the importance of secure attachments for fostering happiness and social success.
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Attachment Is Natural Emotional Regulation
- Attachment is a natural system like breathing that regulates emotions through feeling felt by a caregiver.
- It is not about specific behaviors like breastfeeding or baby wearing, but about emotional attunement and holding space for the child's feelings.
Mother's Teen COVID Emotional Moment
- Bethany shared a personal story of her teenage daughter feeling hurt during a COVID outing.
- She focused on helping her daughter feel her feelings instead of trying to be right, fostering secure attachment.
Secure Attachment Supports Regulation
- Secure attachment allows children to express emotions fully and return to baseline.
- The key is the child's ability to use the caregiver as a secure base under stress to regulate emotions.