Pints With Aquinas 5 Remedies for Sorrow (Fr. Boniface Hicks) | Ep. 548
Oct 29, 2025
Fr. Boniface Hicks, a Benedictine priest and spiritual director, joins to explore Aquinas' five remedies for sorrow. He discusses the importance of acknowledging sorrow as a natural emotion and the impact of relationships on emotional well-being. They delve into practical remedies like enjoying legitimate pleasures, the healing power of tears, and the significance of sympathetic friends. Fr. Boniface also emphasizes the need for contemplation of truth and bodily restoration as antidotes to sorrow, offering actionable advice to implement these insights in daily life.
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Sorrow Is A Legitimate Human Response
- Sorrow is a natural, appropriate response to real loss and deprivation and is part of our humane emotions.
- Suppressing sorrow also suppresses joy and comes from living in constant threat-mode or overactive assertive emotions.
Stop Shaming Negative Emotions
- Stop shaming negative emotions and instead ask: what am I feeling and why?
- Name the source of sorrow so it can be compassionately processed rather than dismissed.
We Become Who Others Confirm Us To Be
- Emotional regulation and resilience form in relationship through affirmation and shared responses.
- We receive our sense of worth and safety from others' attention, not from mirrors or abstract ideas.
