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Come As You Are

How Desire Actually Works

Nov 30, 2022
38:53

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Quick takeaways

  • Responsive desire is a normal and healthy way of experiencing sexual desire.
  • Creating a context that prioritizes pleasure is key to embracing responsive desire and enhancing sexual experiences.

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Understanding the Context of Sexual Desire

Spontaneous desire and responsive desire are both normal ways of experiencing sexual desire. While spontaneous desire can arise out of the blue, responsive desire emerges in response to the pleasure of sex. Judging responsive desire as inferior or abnormal can hinder the experience of pleasure and desire. Creating a context that makes pleasure easy, whether through physical touch, deep conversations, or other means, is key to embracing responsive desire. By prioritizing pleasure in our definition of sexual well-being, desire will naturally follow.

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