Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 183 - Equal and Equitable Relationships
Aug 7, 2018
What does it mean to have an equal relationship? The hosts explore signs of imbalance and discuss how strict 50/50 equality differs from the concept of equity. They provide practical tips for identifying needs and navigating sacrifices while highlighting the importance of mutual respect. The conversation also touches on applying equity in non-hierarchical polyamory, emphasizing boundary setting and regular check-ins. Tune in for insights that could transform how you approach your love life.
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Equality Means Agency Not Sameness
- Equality in relationships isn't just identical treatment; it's about agency, respect, and feeling empowered.
- Non-hierarchy doesn't mean identical time or resources with every partner; it means fairness in needs met.
Look For Power And Control Signs
- Watch for monopolized decision-making, gaslighting, ignored boundaries, or one partner doing all emotional labor.
- If these signs are present repeatedly, treat the situation as potentially abusive and seek help.
Equity Beats Strict 50/50 Splits
- Equity adjusts for partners' different needs so both feel empowered and have agency.
- 50/50 splits can be unequal if people have different abilities, needs, or preferences.