Lauren Zander on How to Work with Your Inner Dialogue
Jun 24, 2022
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Lauren Zander, a life coach and author known for her transformative insights, discusses how to navigate your inner dialogue. She humorously introduces three inner voices: the chicken, the brat, and the weather reporter, encouraging self-reflection. Zander explains that over 80% of our thoughts can be negative and explores strategies to change these patterns. The conversation emphasizes the power of personal responsibility, keeping promises to oneself, and the role of accountability partners in fostering personal growth.
Recognizing and categorizing negative inner dialogue, represented by the 'chicken,' 'brat,' and 'weather reporter,' empowers personal growth and decision-making.
Implementing accountability through consequences, such as tying enjoyable activities to fulfilling commitments, enhances self-discipline and motivation for positive change.
Deep dives
The Power of Choice in Life Stories
The importance of choice in shaping one’s life story is emphasized, suggesting that individuals hold the power to determine their paths regardless of their circumstances. This concept highlights that despite various life challenges or adversities, one can find meaning in their journey by taking ownership of their narrative. By replacing self-pity and negativity with conscious decisions, people can actively create a fulfilling and empowered life. The notion that belief in one’s ability to change can lead to significant personal transformations is strongly advocated.
Understanding and Managing Inner Dialogue
The discussion introduces the concept of inner dialogue, explaining how people's thoughts can often be negative and repetitive, contributing to their struggles. Identifying and categorizing these thoughts, represented as the 'chicken,' 'brat,' and 'weather reporter,' allows individuals to recognize the sources of their self-limiting beliefs. By bringing humor into this introspective process, one can develop awareness of their inner voice's influence on their actions and decisions. This awareness enables individuals to take control of their thoughts and work towards personal growth by reshaping negative narratives into constructive ones.
The Role of Accountability and Consequences
Implementing accountability through consequences is presented as a practical strategy for maintaining personal integrity and ensuring commitment to one’s goals. Associating enjoyable activities, such as watching TV, with conditions based on adhering to promises creates a sense of motivation to follow through. This technique facilitates self-discipline by providing a fun yet structured way to ensure individuals meet their commitments. Furthermore, having someone to hold you accountable, whether a friend or family member, reinforces the importance of sticking to one’s intentions and making positive changes.
Transforming Beliefs through Conscious Awareness
The significance of recognizing and analyzing personal beliefs and theories that govern one’s inner dialogue is explored, noting that these elements shape life experiences profoundly. Individuals often develop beliefs based on past experiences, which can either empower or limit their potential. By questioning the validity of these beliefs and considering their origins, one can reframe negative narratives into more supportive and affirming ones. This transformative process aids in fostering a positive mindset that aligns with personal goals and aspirations, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life.
Lauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker and co-founder and chairwoman of The Handel Group. Her book, Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life, is what she and Eric discuss in this episode. Lauren has an incredibly useful approach to uncovering your limiting inner dialogue so that you can truly catapult yourself forward in life.
In this episode, Eric and Lauren discuss several strategies to work with your inner dialogue.
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