EP 257.5: Silence Your Inner "Mean Girl" ~ The 7 Voices Keeping You in Quasi-Recovery (& How to Stop Them) **Must Listen Fav!**

That voice inside your head—the one that tells you you're not good enough, that you need to be perfect, that you're a failure if you rest—she's keeping you stuck. And it's time to silence her.

In this episode, we're diving deep into the seven inner critics that are holding you hostage in quasi-recovery. These voices? They're the reason you can't move forward. They're the reason you feel trapped in the exhausting cycle of trying and failing, restricting and controlling, never feeling like you're doing it right.

But here's the truth: 80% of your thoughts are negative, and 95% of them are repetitive. No wonder you feel stuck. No wonder you lack motivation. No wonder you believe the lies that you'll always be this way.

The good news? You can change your thoughts. And when you change your thoughts, you change your entire life.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• What your inner critic is and how it developed in early childhood
• The 7 types of inner critics: Perfectionist, Inner Controller, Taskmaster, Destroyer, Underminer, Molder/People Pleaser, and Guilt Tripper
• Which inner critic is running the show in YOUR mind (and how to identify it)
• Why your inner critic isn't wrong—it's just a part of you that needs more love
• How to reframe your negative thoughts and shift your perspective
• A powerful reflection exercise to help you silence your mean girl once and for all

If you're tired of feeling controlled by that voice in your head, if you're ready to stop believing the lies, and if you're done staying stuck in quasi-recovery—this episode is for you.

It's time to be the boss of you. Not your eating disorder. Not your inner critic. You.

KEY QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE

💛 "It's not who you are that holds you back, sis. It's who you think you're not."

💛 "Your inner critic is just that part of you that needs more love, more compassion. You're the boss, not your eating disorder."

💛 "When you change the way that you think, you change your entire life. When you can change your mind, you can recover from your eating disorder."

💛 "80% of our thoughts are negative and 95% of our thoughts on the daily are repetitive. No wonder why you lack motivation. No wonder why you think you're always gonna be here."

💛 "You are the boss of you. You are not a quitter. You are creating a new version of you."

THE 7 INNER CRITICS EXPLAINED

1. THE PERFECTIONIST
Sets unrealistic standards and makes you feel inadequate when you don't achieve them. Your self-worth depends on achievement, and mistakes feel catastrophic.

2. THE INNER CONTROLLER
Tries to control impulsive behaviors around eating, drinking, or spending. When you slip up, this voice shames you: "You should have known better. You have no willpower."

3. THE TASKMASTER
Pushes you to keep going without rest. Fears you'll become "lazy" if you stop. Makes you believe you have to exercise every day or you're unworthy.

4. THE DESTROYER
Makes direct attacks on who you are as a person. Tells you you're worthless, broken, a waste of space. This one breeds depression and keeps you trapped.

5. THE UNDERMINER
Keeps you small and afraid to take risks. Paralyzes you from believing freedom is possible. Says, "Why try when you're gonna fail anyway?"

6. THE MOLDER (People Pleaser)
Makes you adapt and mold yourself to fit in with others. You cut calories, follow rules, stay in your lane—all to be liked and accepted by everyone else.

7. THE GUILT TRIPPER
Keeps a record of all your wrongs and never lets you move forward. Reminds you of past failures and says, "This is just who you are. This is your karma."

REFLECTION EXERCISE (5-10 MINUTES)

As you listen to this episode, I want you to identify which inner critic(s) show up most frequently for you. Then, spend 5-10 minutes reflecting:

✨ What are the constant nagging thoughts she says to you?
✨ What is the voice inside your mind constantly telling you?
✨ How are these thoughts simply not true?
✨ What data do you have to prove your mind could be lying?

Now, act as your own BFF, your own ally, your own coach:

• If your thought is: "I'll never recover" → Shift it: "I'm healing and learning. I'm not there yet, but I'm going there."
• If your thought is: "This is just too hard" → Shift it: "The more I practice doing the opposite action, the easier it gets."
• If your thought is: "I always go back to unhealthy patterns" → Ask: "What are some different actions I can take right now so that doesn't happen? How can I show up for my true self?"

RESEARCH MENTIONED

📊 According to the National Science Foundation:

• You think approximately 60,000 thoughts per day
• 80% of those thoughts are negative
• 95% of those thoughts are repetitive

This is why you feel stuck. But you can change this pattern starting today.

RESOURCES + SUPPORT

Ready to silence your inner critic with personalized support?

💛 Work With Me 1:1 - I provide deep accountability, connection, and personalized coaching to help you navigate your inner critics, shift your perspective, and find freedom from food and body. If you're exhausted from these voices running your life, let's work together.

👉 Apply for coaching: Visit www.herbestself.co  and fill out a client application

💛 Join Our Private Community - Connect with other women in recovery who understand what you're going through. Find support, hope, and healing. www.herbestself.co/recoverycollective 

👉 Hope and Healing for Eating Disorder Recovery Facebook Group www.herbestselfsociety.com 

Connect with Lindsey Nichol:

Website: www.herbestself.co

Apply for Coaching: www.herbestself.co

Instagram: @thelindseynichol 

Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com 

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About the Host

Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She understands how core beliefs formed in childhood can create and maintain eating disorder patterns, and she's passionate about helping women identify and transform these beliefs to find lasting freedom.

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*While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.