507 - Putting Your Values into Action with Jaime Gama
Nov 26, 2024
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Jaime Gama, a psychologist specializing in ethical relationships, shares insights from his popular Instagram account, Gotitas de Poliamor. He delves into the complexities of non-monogamous identities, emphasizing the importance of adapting personal labels over time. Jaime discusses the significance of validating emotions without guilt and advocates for open communication about desires in all relationship types. He also explores the impact of traditional masculine norms and the need for compassionate, community-driven connections.
Finding a supportive community is essential for individuals in non-monogamous relationships to foster growth, understanding, and shared experiences.
Relationship labels can create confusion, so individuals are encouraged to embrace their unique paths and relationships without rigid definitions.
Ethical relationships are grounded in agency, honesty, and communication, allowing individuals to prioritize emotional safety over traditional structures.
Deep dives
The Importance of Community in Relationships
Finding a supportive community is crucial for personal growth and maintaining healthy relationships. Individuals engaged in non-monogamous dynamics, especially in polyamory, thrive when they have others to share their experiences and struggles with. This sense of connection fosters validation and empathy, allowing individuals to explore their feelings and learn from one another. Conversely, those lacking this support may revert to traditional patterns of masculinity, hierarchy, and aggression, emphasizing the need for companionship and understanding in navigating complex relationship dynamics.
Navigating Relationship Labels
The concept of relationship labels can create confusion and pressure for individuals seeking personal identity within their connections. Exploring terms like polyamorous or ambiamorous can be daunting, and some may feel burdened by the expectation of a strict identity. The discussion highlights the fluidity of labels, emphasizing that one's relationship experience should not be constrained by predefined categories. Instead, individuals are encouraged to embrace their unique paths and define their terms while remaining open to change over time.
Ethical Relational Framework
Fostering ethical relationships centers on principles such as agency, honesty, communication, and compassion. These pillars guide interactions, prioritizing emotional safety and vulnerability over rigid adherence to traditional relationship structures. The discussion reinforces the idea that ethical engagement transcends specific relationship configurations, allowing individuals to align their practices with personal values. By acknowledging that each relationship can involve different agreements and expressions, individuals are empowered to cultivate fulfilling connections without succumbing to external expectations.
Personal Growth Through Relationship Challenges
Experiencing challenges in relationships often facilitates significant personal growth and self-awareness. The journey of navigating love, boundaries, and values often uncovers deeper insights about oneself and one's needs. By identifying triggers and patterns, individuals learn to articulate their desires while maintaining emotional security. This growth process emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, encouraging individuals to accept that relationships can be both a source of joy and a platform for ongoing development.
Balancing Autonomy and Relationships
The discussion highlights the nuanced balance between autonomy and interdependence in relationships, particularly within non-monogamous contexts. While both autonomy and agency are essential for personal fulfillment, there is often a misconception that valuing one's independence equates to disregarding partner's feelings. Acknowledging the complexities of emotional interdependence allows individuals to honor their needs while still being considerate of their partners. This perspective fosters healthier dynamics, transforming the narrative around freedom and control into one of mutual respect and shared agency.
Today we're joined by Jaime Gama of the popular Instagram account Gotitas de Poliamor. We'll be discussing non-monogamy, identity, community, and much more with him.
Jaime is a psychologist with a master's in Gestalt psychotherapy who specializes in ethical relationships, both monogamous and non-monogamous. He uses his account to share his experience and journey deconstructing the ways he connects with his partners. At the moment he offers webinars, on-line sessions and is working on writing his first book. Find more about Jaime at www.gotitasdepoliamor.com, or follow him on Instagram @gotitasdepoliamor.
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