ReThinking Bringing out the good in kids—and parents—with Becky Kennedy
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Feb 14, 2023 
In this discussion, Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist and founder of Good Inside, shares insights on modern parenting. Known as Dr. Becky, she emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries rather than solely focusing on children's happiness. The conversation explores the significance of emotional connections and open communication in parenting, as well as the value of honest feedback from kids. Becky stresses that repairing relationships after conflicts is crucial, advocating for quality time to nurture emotional resilience and self-confidence in children.
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Mismatched Priorities
- Parents are often mistaken about their children's perception of their priorities.
- Children often perceive achievement or happiness as their parents' top priority, even when parents prioritize kindness.
Parenting Job Description
- Define your job as a parent: set boundaries and validate emotions.
- Boundaries ensure safety, while validation acknowledges children's feelings, even during limit-setting.
Short-Term vs. Long-Term Success
- Focusing on short-term markers of success can hinder long-term development.
- Prioritizing short-term happiness reduces a child's tolerance for distress and hinders intrinsic motivation.