The Cabrera Lab Podcast #6: Heal Your Self: How to get over something you can’t get over
May 1, 2024
Explore the depths of healing from childhood trauma and how it shapes adulthood. The hosts unravel how past events trigger harmful mental models that dictate behavior. They share personal stories of abandonment and emphasize the importance of correcting these models in the moment. Discover practical methods to coach your inner child and repair developmental strands. Ultimately, it's about recognizing present mental models and embracing agency to change your path toward growth and self-improvement.
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Unexpected Abandonment At Thirteen
- Laura Cabrera recounts being 13 when she discovered her father's furniture was gone and he had moved without telling her.
- She explains that as a child she built mental models like “I'm unlovable” that affected her for years.
Events vs. The Mental Models We Carry
- Derek and Laura note the real problem is the mental models you form, not the event itself.
- Those mental models are like rocks in your pockets that keep weighing you down long after the event ends.
Adults Should Correct Children's False Meanings
- Derek explains events occur and we construct meanings (mental models) that may not match reality.
- A perceptive adult could correct faulty models early and reduce their long-term impact.