Psychology Has It Backwards Episode 205: Natural Self-Esteem
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Dec 6, 2025 Explore the concept of natural self-esteem and how embracing our true selves leads to a more fulfilling life. Delve into how self-focused thinking fosters insecurity and the pitfalls of positive self-talk that doesn’t address deep-seated beliefs. Discover the impact of parental messages on self-judgment and how social interactions can be hindered by self-consciousness. Learn to distinguish between necessary change and the power of self-acceptance, while realizing that true attractiveness stems from inner well-being.
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Thoughts Become Convincing When Repeated
- Negative self-thinking feels real because repeated thoughts make them vivid and convincing.
- Chris Heath and Judy Sedgman emphasize that these thoughts are just thoughts, not objective facts.
Talking About Yourself Can Be Joyful
- Chris Heath describes a family member who constantly talks about herself and enjoys it.
- He realized she simply loved her life and storytelling rather than being insecure.
Preemptive Self-Deprecation Backfires
- We use preemptive self-deprecation to control others' impressions, which backfires.
- Chris Heath explains that announcing flaws often makes others notice them more.
