Hard Knox with Amanda Knox How to Discover What You Really Want (Aella)
Nov 18, 2025
In a thought-provoking conversation, Aella, a writer and former OnlyFans creator, shares her insights on treating life as an experimental lab. They delve into the tension between status and truth, exploring how beliefs can protect social positions. Aella discusses the unsettling tradeoffs of radical transparency and the costs of public scrutiny. They also cover surprising survey findings on gender identities and how trauma influences desires. Together, they advocate for curiosity and the importance of questioning everything in the pursuit of authenticity.
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Meeting At The Glitter Trash Bash
- Amanda describes meeting Aella at the Glitter Trash Bash during COVID-era quarantine.
- The party required testing and had a 'trashy glitter' dress code that made it memorable.
Question Beliefs From First Principles
- Question everything from first principles instead of accepting authority claims as visceral truth.
- Use curiosity to test beliefs by trying things and observing whether harm or benefit follows.
Make Beliefs Earn Consequences
- Make beliefs pay rent by exposing them to consequences like prediction markets or tests.
- Seek feedback that hurts when you're wrong so your beliefs update realistically.
