

2610: Are You a Coach or a Cheerleader? by Shana Olmstead on How to Create Empowering Relationships
Jun 2, 2025
Explore the delicate dance between coaching and cheerleading in relationships. Learn how to recognize if you’re offering support out of love or fear. Delve into the importance of empowering others rather than trying to control them. Discover how fear-driven advice can hinder growth and evolution. Shift your mindset from trying to fix others to cheering them on, fostering trust and stronger connections.
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Fear Masquerades as Help
- Helping others from fear rather than love often looks like controlling through advice.
- Fear-based help can decrease others' confidence and motivation instead of boosting it.
Fear-driven Help Backfires
- A client tried to help her wife by giving business advice driven by her own fear of business failure.
- This made her wife feel criticized and demotivated, harming rather than helping her efforts.
Coach vs. Cheerleader Impact
- Cheerleaders support without directing; coaches give advice and can feel controlling.
- Being a coach can make loved ones feel judged, reducing their motivation.