Jillian on Love The Chaser and The Runner: the Pattern that Destroys a Relationship Part 2
May 15, 2023
Learn about the destructive pattern of the Chaser and the Runner in relationships, and how anxious and avoidant attachment styles contribute to it. Discover the rush vs. slowdown dynamic, the ups and downs of relationships, and techniques for increasing communication and understanding. Plus, closing remarks and ads.
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Baby Desire Sparks Runner-Chaser Dynamic
- A woman wanted to have a baby and marriage, but her boyfriend was avoiding commitment due to his career concerns.
- Their lack of honest communication led to a painful chaser and runner dynamic in their relationship.
Understanding Runner-Chaser Root Causes
- Runner and chaser dynamics stem from unspoken fears and mismatched timelines, not just avoidance or lack of love.
- Compassion and understanding each other's internal stories can dissolve these destructive patterns.
Independence vs. Receiving Needs Clash
- Rachel saw needing help as weakness, while Jennifer valued receiving support, creating tension despite love.
- Their differing blueprints about independence caused a runner-chaser spiral until they worked on mutual understanding.