The Ultimate Secret To Making Life Changes w/ Alyssa Nobriga | Heal Thy Self w/ Dr. G Episode #224
Aug 21, 2023
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Alyssa Nobriga, licensed Clinical Somatic Psychotherapist, discusses the ways people unknowingly hinder positive changes in their lives. She explores unhelpful behaviors stemming from life events and emotions, while offering strategies to overcome negative patterns. Topics include the power of acceptance, sleep products and nutritional supplements, visualization for growth, mitophagy support, vulnerability in relationships, and inspiring positive change through personal healing.
Creating sustainable habits requires acceptance and aligned action, going beyond mere awareness.
Understanding and addressing underlying fears and limiting beliefs is crucial for breaking free from old patterns.
Slowing down, embracing discomfort, and aligning with our true identity can lead to deeper healing and growth.
Deep dives
Understanding behavior change and subconscious influence
Behavior change is not just about conscious effort, as 95% of our behavior is driven by our subconscious. This means that setting goals, like losing weight or meditating, only represent a small percentage of what truly creates change. To create sustainable habits, it is important to go beyond awareness and take a deeper step of acceptance. By embracing our emotions, thoughts, and current circumstances, rather than trying to fix or change them, we can start to shift our behaviors from a place of wholeness and alignment. This acceptance and aligned action approach can lead to more holistic and lasting transformation.
Unraveling the deeper roots of habits and fears
Creating new habits and breaking free from old patterns can be elusive because they are often driven by competing desires and fears at a subconscious level. Many times, our conscious desires to change are hindered by underlying fears and limiting beliefs. Understanding and questioning these fears is crucial to unlock sustainable change. It is also important to recognize that habits and behaviors can be shaped by early childhood experiences, even during pregnancy or the first few years of life. By exploring our conditioning and taking responsibility for our own experiences, we can start to create a healthier and more empowered relationship with ourselves and others.
The power of presence, acceptance, and identity in transformation
Stress and overwhelm are symptoms of being disconnected from the present moment and resisting what is. Slowing down and embracing the discomfort can actually lead to deeper healing and growth. The key lies in acceptance and alignment with our true identity. By acknowledging and embracing our feelings, beliefs, and experiences, we can uncover the root causes of stress and unfulfillment. This process allows us to transform our relationship with ourselves and others, leading to more authentic and empowered lives. It is essential to approach this work with compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to explore our inner landscape.
Healing through acceptance and setting boundaries
It is important to approach our healing journey with acceptance and understanding that the coping mechanisms we developed, even if they caused stress in our lives, were the best ways we knew how to take care of ourselves. We can set boundaries for ourselves without judging the people who hurt us, recognizing that they were also affected by their own unconscious parenting. By accepting our patterns and coping mechanisms, we can move through them and create safety within ourselves, fostering healthier relationships.
Manifestation and identity in relationships
Manifestation is enhanced when we have a clear sense of identity and self-worth. When we manifest from a place of feeling whole and empowered, rather than seeking external validation, the process is accelerated. It is important to align our intentions with our desires, while also maintaining a sense of detachment from the outcome. By letting go of limiting beliefs and identities, we open ourselves up to greater possibilities and receive what is truly aligned with our highest good. This approach to manifestation applies to relationships as well, where we can attract partners who mirror our unresolved wounds, offering opportunities for healing and growth.
Alyssa Nobriga is a licensed Clinical Somatic Psychotherapist, an international speaker, and coach, who joins the show to talk about all the ways in which people may be unknowingly stifling their own ability to make positive changes in their lives.
Alyssa examines the life events and emotions that may be leading to unhelpful behaviors, and how to move past those negative patterns to manifest the reality you’ve always dreamed of.
How long does it take for us to develop a habit?
Why can’t be make habits stick?
Acceptance of our limitations
Sustainable change
Embracing resistance
Stretching the capacity of our emotional understanding
Getting out of our own way
Navigating emotions/thoughts
Wanting it more than we fear it
Claiming the results we create in our life
Unraveling the wisdom of our experience
Empowerment through acceptance
How your life story impacts your patterns
Coping strategies
How do coping strategies show up in relationships
Partners activating trauma
Working through generational trauma
Meeting our childhood self’s’ needs
Defense vs vulnerability
Awareness, Acceptance, Aligned action
Projection as Protection
Being integrity with yourself in relationship
Working from the root of ourselves
Stress as a symptom
How do we confront feelings of unworthiness
How to FEEL our emotions
Confronting your past emotions
Empowering ourselves to heal
Feeling stuck
Resisting/Identifying with stuck-ness
Meditation and manifestation
Identity and worthiness in Manifestation
Low attachment, high involvement in manifestation
Letting go of false-identities to manifest abundance
Where to find Alyssa Nobriga’s work
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