New Mindset, Who Dis? 767 - Why are we attracted to narcissists?
Jan 12, 2026
Discover the fascinating reasons behind our attraction to narcissists, especially during uncertain times. Explore how their confidence can be alluring, mirroring our own vulnerabilities. Learn about the risks of seeking validation from self-absorbed individuals and the long-term costs of such relationships. Instead, find out why it's essential to prioritize humble, empathetic connections that foster genuine stability. Gain insights on building self-worth to shift your attraction towards healthier dynamics.
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Instability Makes Bravado Tempting
- We gravitate toward confident, narcissistic leaders when we feel insecure or anxious.
- Case Kenny links political patterns to personal attraction: instability makes bravado look appealing.
Post-Breakup Attraction To Confidence
- After a breakup, a friend immediately dated someone who talked only about themselves and seemed confident.
- She rationalized his self-focus as 'confidence' because it made her feel less lost.
Career Loss Pushing Toward Loud Crowds
- A man laid off from his job gravitated to loud, boastful people and started orbiting their social circles.
- Their apparent confidence felt magnetic while his career and self-esteem were crumbling.
