Exploring the hindrances of perfectionism and the importance of moving forward; strategies for overcoming different perfectionistic mindsets; how constant defensiveness can stem from perfectionism; reflecting on perfectionistic tendencies and personal growth.
Embracing partial solutions can be a kinder approach when perfection seems unattainable.
Offering self-compassion as an alternative to self-contempt can help overcome a critical mindset.
Deep dives
All-or-nothing thinking
All-or-nothing thinking is a mindset that can keep us stuck in perfectionism. It's when we delay or avoid starting a project because we believe it won't meet our unrealistic expectations. For example, the speaker shares how she wanted to redo her sunroom as a home office but couldn't remove an unsightly sink. Instead of halting the entire project, she embraced a partial solution, using the sink as a base for watering plants. This mindset can also manifest in other areas of life, like personal retreats or cooking. Embracing partial solutions can be a kinder approach when perfection seems unattainable.
Critical mindset
A critical mindset is another perfectionistic mindset that can hinder progress and satisfaction. It involves being relentlessly ungracious toward oneself or others, keeping a mental record of perceived failures. The speaker suggests offering self-compassion as an alternative to self-contempt. She recommends an episode of the Lazy Genius Podcast called 'Dealing with differences on how something is done' as a helpful resource for navigating this critical mindset.
Comparison mindset
The comparison mindset is when we hesitate to move forward because we don't feel we measure up to others' achievements. The speaker advises noticing and naming what is true in our own circumstances, as comparing ourselves to others can undermine our self-image, confidence, and belief in our own worthiness. She also recommends the book 'Mythical Me: Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison' by Rachella Parham as a helpful resource for those struggling with this mindset.
Today's question: when is good enough great? We'll talk about when perfectionism keeps us stuck. I hope you'll listen in. LINKS + RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE: