106. Rethinks: Using Skills From Improv to Master Your In-The-Moment Communication
Sep 12, 2023
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Adam Tobin and Dan Klein, Stanford lecturers and improvisation mentors, share their insights on mastering spontaneous communication. They discuss the importance of being present and engaged in unpredictable interactions. Emphasizing authenticity, they explore overcoming pressure through self-awareness and the acceptance of imperfection. The duo also highlights reframing challenging audience questions as collaborative opportunities. With personal anecdotes and interactive games, they illustrate how to foster trust and connection for more effective communication.
Spontaneous communication in professional settings, such as impromptu feedback and answering questions, requires a mindset shift to navigate these situations more comfortably and authentically.
Embracing average and shedding the need for perfection allows for more ease and authenticity in spontaneous communication, leading to greater self-expression and connection with others.
Deep dives
Importance of Spontaneous Communication
Spontaneous communication is often overlooked but vital in professional settings. It encompasses impromptu feedback, answering questions, and introductions. These moments can be as crucial as planned presentations. However, many people find them challenging due to self-consciousness and a fear of not performing well. It's important to embrace a mindset shift and be open to offers and obvious solutions. By reframing these situations as opportunities for discovery and being present-oriented, individuals can navigate them more comfortably and authentically.
The Power of Being Dull
In improvisation, the idea of daring to be dull is liberating because it relieves the pressure to be interesting or original. The fear of seeming unoriginal stifles creativity, while being obvious and genuine allows for authenticity. By shedding the need for perfection and instead embracing average, individuals can feel more at ease when communicating spontaneously. The ability to fail cheerfully and embrace the unexpected leads to greater self-expression and connection with others.
Presence and Listening in Spontaneous Communication
Being present and adopting a conversational approach are essential in spontaneous moments. By recognizing offers from others, whether it's non-verbal cues or challenging questions, individuals can respond effectively. Rather than defensive reactions, perceiving these situations as opportunities for engagement can lead to productive conversations. Trusting oneself, planning the talk, but also being flexible to incorporate elements from the present environment contribute to successful spontaneous communication.
In January of 2020 we launched Think Fast Talk Smartwith the goal of helping people improve their communication skills. Now, with more than 100 episodes and an engaged audience tuning in from more than 200 countries, we're proud to take you back to the very first episode, where the magic began.
As we've discussed multiple times on the show, most professional communication is spontaneous in nature. It’s providing feedback in the moment, answering questions, introducing people. On this inaugural episode, Strategic Communication lecturer Matt Abrahams speaks with Stanford lecturers Adam Tobin and Dan Klein on how to become more comfortable and confident in in-the-moment speaking situations.