Emotional Dependence and the Importance of Self-Differentiation

Emotional dependence is the opposite of self-differentiation, wherein emotionally dependent individuals cannot define themselves outside of others. They rely on reassurance for their well-being, leading to a decreased sense of self-value. Attempting to self-differentiate with dependent people often results in personal anger, victimization, or manipulation. Understanding the leverage of dependents is crucial, as conflicts of will arise when people try to impose their beliefs on others. Convincing dependents to take responsibility is futile, typically resulting in anger and blaming. The key to dealing with anxious, dependent people is maintaining a non-anxious presence.