The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

Dive into the intriguing concept of the Family Projection Process, where parental dynamics shape a child's emotional landscape. Discover how heightened child focus impacts a child's behavior and self-regulation. Insights from a study highlight the worrying tone in high-symptom families, emphasizing the need for positive communication. Learn how parental differentiation can reduce anxiety passed onto children and see parallels drawn for leaders navigating their own emotional landscapes. Unpack why intense focus, even positive, can become counterproductive.

The political, cultural and theological divisions continue to widen. A non-anxious leader understands why AND how to respond.Show Notes:The Center for Family ProcessOnly My Opinion Counts: Myside Bias by Jamie Hale, M.S.The Bias That Divides Us: The Science and Politics of Myside Thinking by Keith E. StanovichBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Phillip Klever's research unveils the impact of intergenerational emotional connections on family dynamics. He compares high and low symptom families, revealing that stronger ties reduce anxiety and improve health. Key findings highlight how multigenerational contact acts as a buffer against stress. The discussion also explores the importance of parental influence on sustaining these connections. Listeners learn practical steps to enhance family relationships, such as reaching out and embracing life changes to strengthen bonds.

Learn about 'Gray Rocking,' a technique for dealing with difficult people by acting boring and non-reactive. Discover how to maintain a neutral demeanor and deflect toxic interactions without conflict. Hear a personal story about using this method during a tense moment at a church. The discussion also touches on when gray rocking is most effective, especially in family dynamics. Finally, get four practical steps to implement this approach while understanding its temporary nature and the need for self-care.

This episode explores what "Fogging" is and how you can use it in anxious situations.Show Notes:When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. SmithThe Fogging Technique - Assertiveness Skills ArticlesBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

This episode continues with an explanation of Positive Intelligence and covers the three strategies to increase your PQ so you can be a non-anxious presence.Show Notes:Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS by Shirzad ChamineTake the Saboteur Assessment | Positive IntelligenceBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Positive Intelligence is a practical approach to help you be your best through self-regulation and self-differentiation. This two-part series explains what it is and how it can help you.Show Notes:Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS by Shirzad ChamineTake the Saboteur Assessment | Positive IntelligenceBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Observing the patterns in a system, not just the behavior of individuals, can help you to better self-differentiate. Here's how.Show Notes:When the Family Tightens Up - by Kathleen SmithBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Self-differentiation means that you are able to manage your own anxiety without involving others. This episode unpacks what this does (and doesn't) look like.Show Notes:Being the Captain of Your Own Ship by Kathleen SmithBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Courage is the strength to act in the face of fear, uncertainty, or adversity. This episode covers the final four types of everyday courage and how they relate to self-differentiation.Show Notes:6 Ways to Practice Everyday Courage by Alex BudakBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.