The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

You can’t make another person responsible. If you’re trying, you’re likely doing it wrong. Here’s why and how you can do better.Show Notes:Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin FriedmanBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Dive into the intriguing world of self-differentiation and the mischief of assumptions! Discover how guessing others’ thoughts can undermine authentic connections. Explore the art of navigating emotional connections and decision-making. Learn to reflect on past experiences and reframe them for a more confident future. The journey encourages embracing your own values while respecting others, fostering better communication and understanding. It's time to break free from anxiety and truly express yourself!

Dive into the fascinating world of psychological reactance and discover how to inspire without pushing buttons. Learn how rephrasing language can influence behavior, especially in engaging teens with healthier choices. Explore the significance of identity in leadership and its impact on relationships. Unpack how self-definition can enhance leadership in worship settings, blending personal beliefs with community values. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for effective leadership!

The triangle is the most stable form of human relationship. Learning to recognize a triangle and how to manage it is essential to being a non-anxious leader.Show Notes:Kathleen Smith, PhD, LPCBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

In A Failure of Nerve, Edwin Friedman maintained that societal regression is counter evolutionary. In this episode, I unpack his five evolutionary principles of life as leadership principles.Show Notes:Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Anxious people want a quick fix. Non-anxious leaders know this is not the answer. Here's why, as well as how you can respond to challenge in a way that will make a difference.Show Notes:How to avoid the most seductive leadership mistake by Ed O'Malley and Julia Fabris McBrideBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

This episode explores Murray Bowen's prediction for when we will emerge from the current societal regression, as well as what that will look like.Bonus: a few examples of a self-differentiated leader right now.Show Notes:A Perspective on a World on Fire: Societal Regression by Michael KerrSocietal Emotional Process — The Bowen Center for the Study of the FamilySocietal Anxiety/Regression - The Murray Bowen Archives ProjectBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Murray Bowen's concept of societal regression helps to understand the conflict and division we face in society today. This episode explains what that is and my takeaways on this.Show Notes:Reflections on Societal Regression by Stephanie FerreraA Perspective on a World on Fire: Societal Regression by Michael KerrBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

This episode covers how Mel Robbins' deals with overfunctioning and the similarities to family systems theory.Show Notes:⁠⁠The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About⁠⁠ by Mel Robbins⁠⁠“The Let Them Theory” Book Summary, Chapter-by-Chapter ⁠⁠by Vanessa Van Edwards⁠⁠Become a Patron⁠⁠ for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠⁠⁠Two for Tuesday⁠⁠⁠ email newsletter.

This episode covers how Mel Robbins' "Let Them Theory" applies to leadership through self-differentiation. Show Notes:⁠The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About⁠ by Mel Robbins⁠“The Let Them Theory” Book Summary, Chapter-by-Chapter ⁠by Vanessa Van Edwards⁠Become a Patron⁠ for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠⁠Two for Tuesday⁠⁠ email newsletter.