The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

Learn about 'Gray Rocking,' a technique for dealing with difficult people by acting boring and non-reactive. Discover how to maintain a neutral demeanor and deflect toxic interactions without conflict. Hear a personal story about using this method during a tense moment at a church. The discussion also touches on when gray rocking is most effective, especially in family dynamics. Finally, get four practical steps to implement this approach while understanding its temporary nature and the need for self-care.

This episode explores what "Fogging" is and how you can use it in anxious situations.Show Notes:When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. SmithThe Fogging Technique - Assertiveness Skills ArticlesBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

This episode continues with an explanation of Positive Intelligence and covers the three strategies to increase your PQ so you can be a non-anxious presence.Show Notes:Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS by Shirzad ChamineTake the Saboteur Assessment | Positive IntelligenceBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Positive Intelligence is a practical approach to help you be your best through self-regulation and self-differentiation. This two-part series explains what it is and how it can help you.Show Notes:Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS by Shirzad ChamineTake the Saboteur Assessment | Positive IntelligenceBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Observing the patterns in a system, not just the behavior of individuals, can help you to better self-differentiate. Here's how.Show Notes:When the Family Tightens Up - by Kathleen SmithBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Self-differentiation means that you are able to manage your own anxiety without involving others. This episode unpacks what this does (and doesn't) look like.Show Notes:Being the Captain of Your Own Ship by Kathleen SmithBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Courage is the strength to act in the face of fear, uncertainty, or adversity. This episode covers the final four types of everyday courage and how they relate to self-differentiation.Show Notes:6 Ways to Practice Everyday Courage by Alex BudakBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

This discussion dives into the power of everyday courage and its connection to self-differentiation. It highlights the distinction between courage and bravery, emphasizing how aligning actions with personal values can help leaders face challenges. The speakers also share insights on cultivating moral and social bravery within teams, outlining key elements of courage. Practical strategies for maintaining integrity and ethical behavior in leadership are explored, empowering individuals to navigate doubt and fear effectively.

Explore the intriguing dynamics of resistance to change. Discover Kurt Lewin's force field analysis, a framework that balances driving and restraining forces. Learn how design thinking can engage communities, using empathy and minimal viable products to spark enthusiasm. Delve into the emotional side of change, including its ties to grief, and find out how active listening can transform resistance into collaboration. This discussion is packed with practical insights for navigating change effectively.

The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family.Show Notes:Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018 by Daniel V. Papero.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.