On Purpose with Jay Shetty If You Can’t Get Over Your Ex—Listen to This! (7 Steps to Stop Obsessing and FINALLY Move on After a Breakup)
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Jun 20, 2025 Heartbreak can feel overwhelming, but there are ways to heal. The discussion dives into the grieving process, highlighting the pain of lost dreams and self-identity. Seven practical steps are shared to help listeners gain clarity, quiet obsessive thoughts, and find closure. Emphasis is placed on self-compassion and recognizing that missing your ex often means longing for an idealized version of the relationship. The journey isn't about returning to the past; it's about becoming a stronger, more self-aware individual.
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Grieving the Fantasy, Not Person
- Breakup pain involves grieving not just the person but the imagined future and idealized version.
- You're missing the fantasy and the comfort of certainty, not the actual person.
Write Down the Facts
- Write down what actually happened in the relationship with facts, not fantasies.
- Clarity gives you your own closure and helps you heal faster.
Three Essentials in Relationships
- The core needs in a relationship are to feel safe, seen, and supported.
- Most failed relationships lack at least two of these crucial elements.