How to Find And Keep A Secure Relationship with @thesecurerelationship's Julie Mennano, LMFT, LCPC
Jan 30, 2024
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Julie Mennano, an expert in attachment theory and improving communication, discusses how to find and keep a secure relationship. She shares advice on improving communication, staying connected during conflict, and approaching difficult situations lovingly. Julie also talks about why couples have the same fight, common relationship issues, steps to achieve secure love, and the importance of self-regulation. She even shares her experience raising six children.
Emotional support is crucial for building trust and navigating challenges in relationships.
Gradually revealing vulnerability in new relationships allows for deeper emotional connections over time.
During difficult times, effective communication and emotional support are key to navigating challenges.
Deep dives
The Importance of Emotional Support in Relationships
Learning how to be emotionally supportive is crucial in any relationship. Emotional validation, comfort, and empathy form the foundation of a healthy emotional connection. By focusing on emotional support, couples can build trust, feel understood, and navigate challenges together.
Titrating Vulnerability in New Relationships
In new relationships, it is important to gradually reveal vulnerability, rather than overwhelming the other person with past baggage. Start with lighter conversations and little bits of disclosure, observing how the other person responds. Reciprocity and a safe environment are key, allowing both partners to deepen their emotional connection over time.
Navigating Challenges in Relationships
During difficult times, such as dealing with chronic health issues or fertility struggles, the focus should be on effective communication and emotional support. Understanding that it is not about the problem itself, but about how the couple communicates and supports each other can help navigate these challenges.
Raising Children with Attachment in Mind
As a parent, the process of fostering secure attachment with your children is a learning experience. Being emotionally supportive, practicing attachment parenting techniques if desired, and developing a bond of trust can contribute to a secure attachment style for children.
The Art of Emotional Validation
Learning how to emotionally validate your partner is crucial in building a secure attachment. Providing understanding, comfort, and empathy, and creating a safe space for open communication are essential elements of emotional validation.
Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, AKA @thesecurerelationship (1M+) joins the show today to share her expertise on the role that attachment theory plays in relationships. Julie shares advice on how to improve communication in relationships, how to stay connected during conflict, and how to approach difficult situations productively and lovingly. We hear why couples have the same fight over and over, the most common relationship issues she sees in her clients, what steps we can take to achieve secure love in our relationships, and the importance of learning how to self-regulate your emotions. Finally, Julie shares how she, as both a parent and a professional, has approached raising her six children.