The Sabrina Zohar Show 165: How to Break Your Unhealthy Dating & Relationship Patterns
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Oct 10, 2025 Transformation can be tough due to our brain's wiring and resistance to change. The idea of motivation is debunked, highlighting that action precedes motivation. Small, consistent actions can rewire your self-concept. The impact of environment and mirror neurons on choices is explored, alongside the importance of emotional regulation. Learn why cognitive strategies often fail and how to practice healthy responses in low-stakes scenarios. Ultimately, embracing small choices and documenting progress is key to lasting change.
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Brain Favors Familiar Equilibrium
- Your brain treats attempts to change as a homeostatic threat and pulls you back to familiar patterns.
- This reversion happens below conscious awareness because the brain seeks equilibrium.
Psychological Immune System Blocks New Habits
- The psyche has a psychological immune system that fights off new behaviors which threaten self-concept.
- Cognitive conservatism makes people need more evidence to revise entrenched beliefs.
Identity Resists Change Like Self-Preservation
- Changing identity triggers identity-protective mechanisms and feels like a psychological death.
- People need certainty and fear 'losing themselves' when they attempt major behavioral change.