The Gabby Reece Show #343 Secure Attachment & Health: Psychology Facts with Adam Lane Smith
Attachment Theory Expert Adam Lane Smith joins Gabby Reese to dive deep into Anxious & Avoidant Attachment and the neuroscience of secure relationships. Learn how to heal your nervous system and unlock true monogamy through co-solving life's challenges.
Adam Lane Smith reveals the hidden science that governs our bonds, explaining how our nervous systems are "fried" by modern life and how attachment science is the future of human connection. Discover the chemical keys to lasting partnership, including the vital role of vasopressin, the hormone released when couples overcome stress and solve problems as a team.
Gabby and Adam discuss:
- How to understand and shift your personal attachment style (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized) to secure.
- The difference between oxytocin and vasopressin and how to naturally increase your bonding hormones.
- Gabby’s personal story of almost divorcing Laird Hamilton and the pivotal shift that transformed her marriage through honest, brave communication.
- The biological imperative of a "safe perimeter" and the dynamic of healthy masculinity and femininity.
- Why the greatest form of resilience for a child is a secure family they can always return to.
- How relationships can become your "medicine" and your greatest tool for a regulated nervous system and a resilient life.
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CHAPTERS
- 00:00 Intro: Fried Nervous Systems & Attachment
- 03:55 The Monogamy Hormone: Vasopressin
- 07:14 Gabby's Story: Almost Divorcing
- 14:19 Secure Parenting: Safe Perimeter
- 19:30 The 4 Layers of Male Safety
- 30:00 Re-Parenting & Going Secure
- 36:10 Masculine and Feminine Roles
- 45:10 Adam Lane Smith's Path
- 53:20 Effeminate Men vs. Feminine
- 59:15 The Cost of Non-Commitment
- 08:45 How to Heal Anxious Men
- 01:13:50 Conflict Builds Strong Bonds
- 01:21:10 Anxious Attachment Needs Solving
- 01:32:00 3 Steps to Secure Attachment
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