Lawyerist Podcast #573: From Courtroom to Community: Strengthening Your Support Network, with Kat Vellos
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Aug 14, 2025 
In this engaging discussion, Kat Vellos, author of 'We Should Get Together', shares her expertise on nurturing friendships and building community. She dives into overcoming busyness to cultivate meaningful connections and emphasizes moving beyond small talk. Kat introduces her four "seeds of connection" framework, offering practical strategies for deepening relationships. The conversation highlights the vital role of friendships in well-being and provides actionable tips for creating a supportive network in both personal and professional spheres.
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Friendship Requires Intentional Effort
- Friendships rarely form magically in adulthood and require attention like other important life areas.
- Kat Vellos found that effort and intentionality are necessary to cultivate adult friendships.
More Connections, Fewer Deep Friends
- Technology expanded contact but increased vagueness about relationship levels and left people with fewer deep friends.
- Kat Vellos identifies busyness, hypermobility, parenting, and difficulty with intimacy as key barriers to deep friendships.
Make Time By Reallocating Activities
- Audit your time to find hours you can reallocate from low-value activities like binge-watching.
- Integrate friends into existing tasks (grocery runs, playdates) to multiply value and save time.
