Emancipate Your Mind Emancipate Your Mind: 010: How to Actively Listen in Conversations with Marriage Therapist, Kevin Hales
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Feb 21, 2021 
Marriage Therapist Kevin Hales discusses the power of active listening in relationships and its impact on communication dynamics. They explore the drawbacks of digital communication and emphasize the significance of eye contact and body language in indicating a lack of safety. The importance of actively engaging with the speaker's words, emotions, and body language is highlighted, emphasizing the need to give undivided attention and minimize distractions.
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Active Listening Is Multi‑Dimensional
- Active listening requires tuning into words, body language, and emotional content, not just hearing words.
- Being present emotionally and physically makes listening truly 'active' and vulnerable.
Text Loses Most Of The Message
- In face‑to‑face talk we capture body language and tone that text messages miss.
- Text and email lose up to 93% of communicative context, making misunderstandings likely.
Pursue/Withdraw Cycle Shapes Listening
- Pursuer and withdrawer roles fuel conflict cycles: one chases, the other disengages.
- Active listening requires the pursuer to slow down and the withdrawer to stay present.