398. When Intimate Time Feels Like a Moving Target In Your Marriage

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we (Nick and Amy) dive into a common concern we hear from many husbands: “Intimate Time Feels Like a Moving Target!"

For some couples, intimacy seems to come with a long checklist such as chores finished, the house spotless, kids taken care of, emotional connection felt, and the right mood set... before intimate time is even an option. While those things can all be important, they can also leave one spouse feeling rejected, frustrated, or like intimacy is always out of reach.

We unpack why these expectations often develop, how they impact both spouses differently, and what couples can do to find a healthier balance. You’ll hear honest conversations about:

• Why the “checklist mentality” can create distance instead of connection
• Practical ways to lower unrealistic expectations while still honoring emotional and relational needs
• How to create an environment where both spouses feel valued and desired

Whether you’ve felt like intimacy is always “just out of reach” or you’re the one needing certain things in place before feeling ready, this episode will give you insight, encouragement, and tools to bring more connection and fulfillment into your marriage.

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