Conversation with Jennifer B. Wallace — What to Do About Toxic Achievement Culture
Aug 24, 2023
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Jennifer B. Wallace, an award-winning journalist and author of, "Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic – and What We Can Do About It," discusses toxic achievement culture, economic pressures on families, instilling a sense of ‘mattering’ in children, and how gender influences children’s sense of interdependence.
Toxic achievement culture in high-achieving schools has led to clinical levels of mental health issues in students, highlighting the importance of prioritizing children's sense of mattering and healthy interdependence.
The pressure to achieve stems from socioeconomic pressures, and it is crucial to redefine success beyond academic achievement and focus on building resilience, empathy, and social connections in order to combat toxic achievement culture.
Deep dives
The Negative Effects of Toxic Achievement Culture on Children
This podcast episode delves into the detrimental effects of toxic achievement culture on children's mental health. It highlights how students in high-achieving schools are now considered an at-risk group due to clinical levels of depression, anxiety, and substance abuse disorder. The pressure to constantly achieve and meet high standards has become overwhelming for these students. The episode emphasizes the importance of shifting parental focus from short-term achievement goals to instilling a sense of mattering in children. Parents are encouraged to prioritize healthy interdependence, where children feel valued for who they are, and are also encouraged to add meaningful value to their families, friends, and communities.
The Influence of Socioeconomic Pressures on Achievement Culture
The podcast also explores how socioeconomic pressures play a significant role in shaping toxic achievement culture. With steep income inequality and globalization, parents feel the need to raise children who will thrive in an uncertain future. This leads to an intense focus on academic achievement and the pursuit of prestigious colleges and careers. However, shifting the definition of success and embracing a wider range of paths and achievements is encouraged. There is a call to prioritize building deep relationships, resilience, and social connections as crucial components of success.
The Role of Parents in Combating Toxic Achievement Culture
Parents are at the forefront in addressing toxic achievement culture. The podcast highlights the importance of parents modeling healthy behaviors and teaching children healthy interdependence. Parents are encouraged to provide love, support, and guidance without making a child's worth contingent on their performance. It is vital for parents to create a safe and open environment where children feel valued and are encouraged to add meaningful value to others' lives. By prioritizing mattering and healthy relationships, parents can help their children build resilience and face the pressures of achievement culture.
Societal Solutions: Widening the Definition of Success and Reimagining Education
The podcast discusses broader societal solutions to combat toxic achievement culture. It suggests expanding the definition of success beyond elite colleges and high-achieving careers. Fostering resilience, empathy, and social connections is advocated for, as well as widening access to opportunities for all socioeconomic backgrounds. The episode explores potential solutions such as implementing gap years or compulsory national service to provide young people with the chance to make a positive impact and gain real-world experience. It also suggests reevaluating the role of prestigious universities and considering their responsibility to act as agents of social mobility.
Jennifer Breheny Wallace, an award-winning journalist and author of, “Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic – and What We Can Do About It,” joins Scott to discuss solutions to toxic achievement culture, economic pressures on families, instilling a sense of ‘mattering’ in children, and how gender influences children’s sense of interdependence.