Finding Space for Hope, Healing, Community, and Support - A Conversation with Minaa B.
Dec 15, 2023
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Minaa B., author and advocate, discusses the importance of wellness, community, and healing in a broken world. Topics include unrealistic ideals around positivity, the power of inter-dependence, embracing all emotions, breaking free from the 'strong black woman' trope, and building circles of support.
Acknowledging and embracing true emotions, including fear and sadness, is essential for healing.
Shifting from hyper-independence to interdependence allows for collaborative healing as a community.
Deep dives
The Importance of Wellness in Mental Health
Mina B, a licensed social worker and author of the book Owning Our Struggles, emphasizes the importance of wellness in both individual and collective mental health. She discusses the need to work through unrealistic ideals around positivity and highlights the significance of cultivating hope through reflection and relationships. Mina B shares how the events of 2020, such as the pandemic, racial injustices, hate crimes, and the loneliness epidemic, inspired her to write the book as a resource for integrating back into society through a community-focused approach to healing.
Moving Towards Interdependence for Healing
Mina B addresses the challenges and pressures faced by individuals, particularly strong black women, in taking on various roles and responsibilities. She encourages setting boundaries and the willingness to say no, emphasizing that healing and growth require community support. Mina B stresses the importance of shifting from hyper-independence to interdependence, where people balance self-sufficiency with the ability to seek and receive support. By embracing interdependence, individuals can recognize the impact of their behaviors on others and the need for collaborative healing as a community.
Embracing Authenticity and Challenging Toxic Positivity
Mina B discusses the concept of toxic positivity and self-imposed pressure to remain positive at all times. She encourages individuals to acknowledge and embrace their true emotions, debunking the myth that healing means feeling good all the time. Mina B highlights the necessity of allowing oneself to feel fear, anxiety, and sadness, as these emotions can serve important purposes. She emphasizes the importance of rational thinking, healthy boundaries, self-acceptance, and challenging unrealistic beliefs about constant positivity as essential aspects of the healing journey.
Creating a Circle of Support and Building Community
Mina B introduces the concept of a circle of support, consisting of four domains: intimacy, friendship, participation, and exchange. She highlights the significance of building genuine connections within these domains, acknowledging that community can extend beyond traditional family structures. Mina B encourages individuals to explore networks and participate in activities aligned with their interests to cultivate community. She challenges the notion that healing and creating community fall solely on individuals and emphasizes the importance of engaging support systems and social infrastructure for collective healing.