In this episode, Linda Murphy joins me to discuss how to develop better communication between kids and parents.

Linda is a speech language pathologist and RDI® Consultant. She co-founded Peer Projects Therapy From the Heart, a clinic in Beverly, MA dedicated to helping kids and families by using a positive, thoughtful communication style that emphasizes understanding, patience, respect, and kindness. Linda has been working with individuals with social learning differences for over 25 years. 

We talk about:

• [3:15] How Linda got into this work

• [4:40] What is declarative language

• [10:40] What happens when a person is given a command

• [14:55] Different strategies for kids who are rigid thinkers

• [18:35] Giving kids processing time

• [20:50] The balance between alternative thinking vs. giving kids notice of things changing

• [25:30] Acknowledging the ‘communication dance’

• [28:40] Strategies for modeling ‘black and white thinking’ 

• [32:05] Voicing your moments of flexibility to help your kids

• [34:00] What we can do as parents to help our kids to not be afraid of making mistakes

• [38:55] Examples of declarative language vs. imperative language

• [45:00] Advice to her younger parent self

She leads trainings on the topic of social learning, has authored Declarative Language Handbook, Co-Regulation Handbook, numerous articles, and co-authored the book Social Thinking and Me with Michelle Garcia Winner. Linda lives north of Boston with her husband and their two busy lovable boys.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 

• Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 

• Parent Workshops: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/8-week-workshops 

• Trainings for educators: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/trainings-for-professionals 

Connect with Linda

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/declarativelanguage/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057683280110 

• Blog: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/sunday-snippets-of-support 

• Website: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/ 

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• Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php